Your best contribution yet: Creating a lifestyle planning process for a fulfilling third chapter of life!
Join us for an all-day interactive workshop: Bountiful Life
Executive and Career Coaches Carolyn Maue, Dee Flaherty and Rosemarie Perla invite you to this exciting initial workshop on envisioning and creating your next phase of life.
This workshop will include opportunities for discussion, self-reflection and individualized planning, assisting you to begin exploring the question: What are the elements that comprise a fulfilling life as I contemplate or embark upon this next phase?
Does this describe you?
- Mid-life professional who wants to envision the next phase of their life/work
- On the cusp of retirement and needing to plan your next phase
- Newly retired or planning to be soon
- Explore and demonstrate the themes, barriers and strengths in planning the next stage of life and work, whether that be the next career, post-career or a combination
- Gather, hone and develop structures and tools that you can use to help you navigate this process
- Plan and take action steps that will help you move further on your path
- Identify and address attitudinal shifts that are necessary for successful movement forward, i.e., how to begin to envision and move through the various stages of change during this critical and exciting time of life.
- Address questions involving stage of life, values that are driving you, and establishing a vision for your next chapter.
- Explore the “checkerboard of choices,” including financial considerations, health considerations, family, etc.
- Develop a contingency plan in case there are unexpected health or financial incidents; ask: “How can I still contribute despite these compromises?”
Leave the workshop with a customized initial “Action Plan” to get you started on your “Third Chapter”
Who: Dee Flaherty, Carolyn Maue, Rosemarie Perla
When: Saturday, May 20, 2017, 10 AM to 4:30 PM
Where: Hampton Inn & Suites, 1247 Smallman Street, Pittsburgh, PA 15222
Full Day Workshop: $350
Early Bird Registration
(ends 4/30/17): $300
Group Rate is available for 3 or more registrants –
call 412-606-0358 for details
Keynote Speaker – Ellis Katsof
Ellis is founder and CEO of MyProtirement, a business focused on changing peoples attitudes toward retirement. Retirement is no longer a destination; it is the first step in a transition toward “Protirement”, which is the pursuit of fulfilling activities in the third chapter of our lives. Protirement includes not retiring and gradually retiring, choices of many Baby Boomers today.
Had a great day with the inaugural class of “Leadership FPRA” of the Florida Public Relations Association, as I presented and facilitated and all day session on “Leading and Managing.” The inspiring, talented PR professionals focused their day on becoming even more effective leaders and sharing their insights and knowledge with one another on topics including leadership strengths, vision, influence and resolving conflict. Terrific day!
|I don’t know about you but sometimes I find it hard to separate the forest from the trees – how to stay focused on the important things and not get too distracted by the multiple mundane tasks that are expected of us every day. The attached article is a great reminder of how to stay grounded, through self-care and putting the “big rocks” (as Stephen Covey says) first. Enjoy!
|“Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.” Rumi|
|As we take time to celebrate Labor Day and the contributions of the workers to American success and prosperity, I encourage you to contemplate your own desires regarding the work that you do. My hope is that your work is integrally connected to your heart’s desire, your purpose, and your talents. And that you can continue to make these linkages even stronger as you move forward, so that you are an inspiration and light to others, giving them hope that they too can express their desires and talents through their work. And that together we can create organizations and workplaces that are safe and productive, and vehicles for positive change and innovation. Happy Labor Day!|
I have been thinking a lot about love lately. About “All We Need Is Love” in our country and the world right now, and also about how powerful love is in the workplace. About how much I love my work and yes, even how much I love my clients and colleagues. We don’t tend to think about “love” being at work, but look around you. Look at the people who you care about and who care about you. Look at how your team pours their heart and soul into their creative ideas and hard-won efforts. Look at how people make you laugh, and how they notice you and appreciate you. This article is a great one, that helps us remember that love is the most powerful motivator, even greater than fear. Enjoy!
The power of watching leaders “in their element” – I had the opportunity to see the talented Karen Lightman, Executive Director of MEMS & Sensors Industry Group, host and facilitate a full day workshop at the Consumer Electronics Show in Las Vegas in January. Being there to observe her greeting members, facilitating discussions, meeting many people in the industry, and pulling it all together in a one day conference gave me a much greater awareness of her talent, her challenges and the environment of her work. And attending CES is an experience! My mind was expanded seeing the technological future and how the use of sensors to provide in-time as well as big data to health and fitness, automobiles, home management, and virtual reality is already changing the way we live.
Hello! My recent posts have been about finding our Purpose, and having that be the basis for our work, leadership and careers. As a member of the Bach Choir of Pittsburgh, we are singing this poem by Robert Frost put to beautiful music by Randall Thompson in the collection of Robert Frost poems: “Frostiana.” You may have sung it as some point too. Each time we sing it, I am reminded how important it is to find grounding and inspiration to help us keep going in our vision and purpose. Here it is – I hope you are as inspired as I am! (You can also listen to it on YouTube and see an amazing slideshow at https://youtu.be/LNDrMifZqLU:. Enjoy!
Choose Something Like a Star
by Robert Frost
O Star (the fairest one in sight),
We grant your loftiness the right
To some obscurity of cloud—
It will not do to say of night,
Since dark is what brings out your light.
Some mystery becomes the proud.
But to be wholly taciturn
In your reserve is not allowed.
Say something to us we can learn
By heart and when alone repeat.
Say something! And it says, ‘I burn.’
But say with what degree of heat.
Talk Fahrenheit, talk Centigrade.
Use language we can comprehend.
Tell us what elements you blend.
It gives us strangely little aid,
But does tell something in the end.
And steadfast as Keats’ Eremite,
Not even stooping from its sphere,
It asks a little of us here.
It asks of us a certain height,
So when at times the mob is swayed
To carry praise or blame too far,
We may choose something like a star
To stay our minds on and be staid.
Increasingly as I work with leaders to help them become more effective, I have realized that finding and articulating our purpose is foundational in being a successful leader and living a satisfying life. In this brief but energizing TED talk, Adam Leipzig provides 5 ingredients for quickly identifying your life’s purpose. They are:
1. Who you are
2. What you do – what do you love to do (Ask ourselves: “What is the one thing I feel supremely qualified to teach other people?”)
3. Who you do it for
4. What do those people want or need
5. How do they change as a result of you
Click on this 10 minute video to see Adam describe his “formula”. Enjoy!
This is a great graphic that is available on the Internet. I encourage leaders to use this themselves and with their team members. It helps tease out and clarify what we are passionate about, as well as how we can use this passion to get paid and create a career. Here are some questions to help you get started.
Passion = That which you love +That which you are good at
What do you love doing, that you do even when you are not getting paid? Think back to when you were 9 years old – what did you love doing the most? What do people compliment you on? What talents or skills come easily to you? When do you feel you are soaring in “fifth gear?” (Hint: one of my passions is helping people find their passions!)
Profession = That which you are good at + That for which you can get paid
? What jobs/roles/internships did you love the most? Write down the five factors that made you love that job. What jobs/roles have you had that would do even as a volunteer? Conversely, where have you volunteered where you thought, “Wow, I’d love to get paid for this?” Suggestion: scan Monster or the Sunday Want Ads for 20 minutes. What jobs do you see that jump out at you? What contributions have you made in your jobs/life that make you unique?
Vocation = That for which you can get paid + That which the world needs
? How has what you have done made a difference in the world? What is your unique contribution that changes things for the better? How could you take what you have done to a higher level, one where you have more influence? What is a cause of which you want to be a part? What skills could you contribute to that effort?
Mission = That which the world needs + That which you love
? Go back up there to your “Passion” and write in here that which you love to do, and when you feel like you are soaring along in 5th gear. Now write down here what you believe the world needs. How do these two connect? How can you bring what you love to change the world for the better? You may do this at work, or outside of work. What’s important is to live your mission.
There you go! Try these exercises and let me know your thoughts! Good luck!
The fourth step of the framework I use with leaders to help them build capacity is Performance. As you grow in your leadership – honing your “Power of One,” this framework can help both you and those you are developing to stay on course:
What are the most important elements of Leadership Performance?
Let’s turn to some experts for their definitions of Leadership*:
Peter Drucker: “The only definition of a leader is someone who has followers.”
Or, in the words of the Afghan proverb: “If you think you’re leading and no one is following, you’re just taking a walk.” Your most important role as a leader is to make sure you have engaged your team and staff in your vision and direction. Putting time and energy into assuring your have a vision and strategy that others can follow needs to be one of your top priorities.
Warren Bennis: “Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality.”
As a leadership coach, I often work with leaders who are either good at strategy and not so strong on implementation, or strong on “getting things done” and lack the big picture. When we are performing as effective leaders, we have both a clear strategy and a way to implement it – and most of the implementation is going to be done by others.
Bill Gates: “As we look ahead into the next century, leaders will be those who empower others.”
The only way to grow a function, department, or organization is to build capacity. And the only real way to build capacity is to grow and empower others. When I tell leaders that their #1 responsibility is to grow and empower others, they often sometimes look at me like I have 3 eyes. But there it is, folks.
John Maxwell: “Leadership is influence – nothing more, nothing less.”
Influence is important because others, many of whom have no direct reporting relationship to us, do so much for what we are responsible. It is incredibly important for leaders to understand how to use our personal strengths and power to collaborate with others to get the results we desire. Once you are in the role of leader, Leadership Performance and success often means taking a higher, broader view, and using your influence and knowledge and skill to affect positive change through others.
Here are some quick tips on keeping your Leadership Performance effective:
? Build interdependence with peers – Scott Eblin, in his book The Next Level, reminds leaders to remember that at the upper levels, success depends more on interdependence than independence. Get to your executive peers by asking them open-ended questions that demonstrate your interest and willingness to help. Move past arguing over positions by taking the time to understand each other’s underlying interests.
? Lead your team – Strong leadership performance is often making the transition from “doer” to leader. It is making a shift in sense of self, and reprioritizing what is most important in the job. It is moving from doing what you are so good at that it got you elevated to this role, only to realise that, as leaderhip expert Marshall Goldsmith says in the title of his seminal book: What Got You Here Won’t Get You There – Build trust by conducting regular group meetings to share information and touch base.
? Collaborate and influence – More advice from Scott Eblin – Build in your influence through collaboration, not from accumulating or hoarding information or resources. Recognize when you may have to sacrifice or contribute key resources for the good of the whole. Focus on expanding the size of the pie and not just getting the biggest slice for yourself.
? Manage your emotions – Make sure to keep your emotions in check by responding rather than reacting to input or actions with which you don’t agree. You may need to learn how to count to ten, implement “active listening” skills, and use stress management techniques so you keep your cool. Be willing to choose an effective outcome with your peers over the desire to demonstrate that you’re right on a particular point.
? Use your personal presence – Remember that 75% of our communication is non-verbal, so use your “mantle of leadership” to maximize your leadership capacity. As my mother used to say, stand up straight. Walk into a room with confidence and sit in the front of the room to show enthusiasm. Keep your door open when possible to encourage open exchange of ideas, and when you need to focus, close the door and put in friendly but clear sign on the door. And remember, a smile is worth a thousand words.
*From “What is Leadership?” Kevin Kruse, contributor, Forbes, April 9, 2013